Author: Daniel J. Siegel
|Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of The Teenage Brain (2013) explained why we get mood swings. The main idea of the book is that hormones are behind this behavior and not what parents think about the child’s behavior. At the same time, the author explains how we can make changes to our actions to help with this behavior. Parents need to understand that their children need more compassion than criticism to make changes in their behavior.|
We’ve all been there. It’s that moment when you’re sitting across from your teenager and you suddenly feel like you’re on the outside of your own family looking in. That’s what Brainstorm is all about: recognizing that teenagers are going through an enormous amount of changes internally but also connecting with them.
Brainstorm is the next generation of parenting books!
The science behind how the teenage brain works and how hormone changes affect teenagers more than anyone else. This book will take you through the different changes of teenage life along with the science behind each stage. You’ll learn why teenagers say they hate you and why they push all your buttons and why it is that so many teenagers seem to be rebelling. You’ll understand more about why they say they can do “whatever” and why they have such a hard time controlling their emotions, along with strategies for helping them work through the struggles that come with the roller coaster that is their teen years.
As a parent, you will learn how to set up boundaries and rules, but also how to recognize that becoming your teenager’s best friend isn’t going to win them back to your side or help them listen to you when it matters. You’ll understand that being like everyone else isn’t a bad thing and will have insights into what our kids have to be like to survive this stage of life.
Brainstorm Key Points
You may think adolescent is behaving crazy but it’s normal for them
The tough time for any parent with a kid is in middle school or high school. In the space of the past year or two, your kid has gone from a sweet and compliant little darling to a moody, hormone-driven stranger who does things that no rational person could ever imagine. He or she is farting in front of the whole class, wetting the bed, talking back, refusing to take out the garbage, and cranking up the volume on the TV when you’re on the phone with Mom. It may sound crazy, but the wild behavior of teenagers is a sign that their brain is right on track developmentally. Let’s take the embarrassment and frustration that kids suddenly feel toward their parents as one example.
The adolescent brain is undergoing a massive reorganization, one that allows adolescents to assert their independence from their parents. This new phase in the development is called Neoteny, which is the retention of juvenile features in the adult. This means that teenagers have a harder time comprehending the consequences of their actions because they have yet to develop fully adult reasoning abilities. The chemicals that drive teenager behavior, like oxytocin and dopamine, also dominate their brains during this time. So it isn’t that your teen is acting out on purpose but rather, it’s science.
Some parents think that ignoring their child’s bad behavior will work best. But if you were to do this, you would be ignoring the fact that your child needs reining in just as much as you might have needed your parents to do this for you at their age. Parents who can remain calm when addressing bad behavior can help adolescents learn what’s acceptable and what’s not by providing consistent discipline and guidance.
Allows the teenager to develop new skills or acquire new knowledge
Many brain functions, including self-control and the ability to learn, are not fully developed until a person’s early twenties. Frequent exposure to challenging information plays a crucial role in this process. So sleeping in and watching TV all day is probably not the best idea.
The teenage years are characterized by dramatic changes in the brain. The majority of the brain’s synapses are formed and pruned during this time, giving us the ability to make decisions, plan and communicate effectively. Sleep plays an important role in these processes. Research shows that young people require more sleep than adults, and generally, too little sleep is associated with behavioral problems such as aggression and lack of impulse control.
The cerebral cortex in the brain, which is responsible for memory, learning, and language skills, is not fully mature until around age 25. The prefrontal cortex, which helps regulate behavior and impulses, matures last of all. Still, it is not quite as useless as the old idiom “my brain is a sieve” makes it seem. Although adolescents may find it hard to concentrate or remember facts from class, it was previously assumed that their brains were idle and had nothing to do at the time. Now we know better.
Communicating with teenagers will help them prepare for adulthood
How do you help a teenager communicate their feelings?
Being a teenager is hard.
They’re going through puberty, they have lots of life changes, and they have all the energy in the world.
A lot of people encourage parents to have “the talk” with their teenagers. You know, the one where you sit them down and discuss sex, drugs, and alcohol. Reflective conversations are different from that kind of talk.
Reflective conversations are a powerful tool to help prepare teenagers for adulthood, but must be done right to work. . you mustn’t tell them what to think or feel, but rather encourage them to speak openly about anything that is on their mind.
They are more about listening than talking. Reflective conversations aim to take the same benefits of “the talk” and apply them to all parts of teenagers’ lives, not just sex. These conversations can help guide them through anything they are struggling with by being open to feedback and frustration while being unafraid of losing control of your emotions.
In these conversations, adolescents should not be afraid to tell you what they think or feel about anything, whether it is about school, friends, parents, or life in general. And most importantly, you should not be afraid to listen. The goal is for both parties to learn something from each other, whether it is about how your teenager feels about homework or how you felt about a time when you messed up at work.
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of The Teenage Brain Quotes
“Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them become what they are capable of being.” Daniel J. Siegel
“An important take-home message is that it is vital to keep the lines of connection and communication open and to remember that we all—adolescents and adults—need to be members of a connected community.” Daniel J. Siegel
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of The Teenage Brain Review
Brainstorm is a book that I’ve read which is the best book I’ve ever read. I liked the book. It was interesting because it explained why teens act as they do. It was interesting to read because it explained why we get mood swings. The author, Daniel J. Siegel, wanted people to understand why teens act how they do.
To whom I would recommend Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of The Teenage Brain Quotes summary?
- An old parent wants to know why their children are acting the way they are.
- Any school teacher wants to handle his students calmly.
- Any teenager.