Author: Jia Jiang
|Rejection Proof (2015) shares the author’s life experience and setbacks. Through his journey, he has motivated the readers how to cope with the rejection and fear of it. Most importantly that we can change the “No” into something positive.|
In the book Rejection proof, the author Jia Jiang has shared his journey and struggles to become an independent entrepreneur.
Although he was working at a reputable company and was earning 6 figure salary still, he wanted to do something of his own and was not happy with what he was doing. He wanted to be an independent entrepreneur.
When his first attempt to pursue his entrepreneurial dream ended in rejection, he started doubting himself. It was a major setback for him. But later on, he realized that his fear of rejection was the bigger obstacle. He figured out he needs to overcome the fear of rejection which hinders success. He has shared this journey in his book and inspired the readers to be more confident dealing with rejections.
Rejection Proof Key Points
Rejection always feels personal
The author says that rejections do not kill anyone but they hurt a lot. This is due to the fact that we constantly take rejection personally. It’s difficult not to blame yourself when someone tells you “No” right in your face. Your unpredictable surroundings can be blamed for losing a job, failing an exam, or making a mistake. But it’s difficult to blame the waiter when your date says she doesn’t want to see you again after supper.
The rejector gains power over the rejected, the transaction isn’t fair, and two persons who were before equal are now divided into the one who chose and the one who didn’t.
No “NO” is forever
The author says that there is no number for rejection. There comes a time when we succeed. All we have to do is try hard and accept ourselves. Every rejection has a number on it, keeping in mind that you may always adjust a few variables like the above three.
One of the most distinguishing characteristics of optimists is that they regard bad experiences as transient, situational, and impersonal. When you do the same thing with rejection, your entire outlook on it will shift. Because rejection is always a conversation between two or more individuals, it is always based on their perspectives. However, because opinions are subjective, no single rejection is the result of a definitive or objective judgment about you as a person.
Every refusal is distinct, and each request will receive a different reaction, depending on a variety of factors such as the atmosphere, timing, and, of course, who you’re asking.
Rejection is the indicator of your growth
The globe revolves around the sun, not the other way around, according to Galileo Galilei, Apple’s first tablet computer in 1993, and Twitter’s 140-character restriction. The masses laughed all three of these out of the room at first. Rejected. It took a long time for them to gain traction, but it turns out that all three were simply revolutionary concepts that were ahead of their time.
Rejection can indicate that you’re on to something big. Whether its authors getting turned down by publishers, concept automobiles never being produced, or companies struggling for finance, revolutionary ideas seldom spread quickly since the majority can’t grasp them yet. Another lesson that the book teaches is to keep pushing when it appears like you’re being rejected just because herds of people don’t want to listen to you. The messenger isn’t necessarily the one who is insane.
Who would I recommend the Rejection Proof book to?
The book Rejection Proof is recommended to anyone who is healing and moving on from a toxic relationship. Moreover, anyone who blames themselves and questions their existence after a setback or rejection should give this book a read.