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Solve For Happy Summary – August 2022

Author: Mo Gadwat 

Short Summary
Solve For Happy (2016) is Mo Gawdat’s sixth book in which he poses an alternative model of happiness that goes beyond the goal of attaining it. We all struggle with being happy, but the struggle is often the problem. Motivational speaker and former Google executive Mo Gawdat lays out a simple but revolutionary formula for living a happy, productive life, which he calls The Happiness Equation.
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Detailed Summary

Happiness is our default state. In other words, you don’t have to work hard to feel happy. You don’t have to squelch your negative thoughts and stifle your doubts. You can relax and get satisfied. Solve For Happy is based on the premise that we can all be happy. But we need to choose it because our default state is feeling neutral or maybe even a little sad. What we’re not born with is the ability to be happy all the time—instead, we are born with the ability to be happy sometimes and unhappy sometimes, and we have to build up our happiness muscles if we want them to be strong enough to carry us through tough times. 

Ultimately, the book outlines a formula for achieving happiness that includes identifying a vision, building good habits, embracing your role in the world, disengaging from negative influences, cultivating optimism, and having epiphanies. It also shows the difference between just feeling good and having everything we want and teaches us how to access joy on demand. For those of us who have “been there, done that” regarding personal development books, this is a great book to pick up if you want to take things one step further and use science to achieve happiness instead of just using aimless platitudes.

Solve For Happy Key Points

Your inner voice is always negative; It’s not the real you

The inner voice is always negative. It obsesses about the past and worries about the future. It repeats different versions of the same scenario over and over again. And then there’s that constant stream of judgment, criticism, and self-deprecation. At best, it cannot be very pleasant. At worst, it can kill your day before you even wake up.

The problem is that our inner voices are often hard to separate from reality. They feed on our insecurities and doubts. When you finally become successful at something, they will try to convince you to keep it under wraps. Interview after interview, we’re asked about our past jobs and the mistakes we’ve made. It’s hard not to compare ourselves with everyone else who had a seemingly more successful career than ours. We’re not alone in this struggle. All of us have a voice in our heads, constantly complaining about how things aren’t fair or lamenting how things used to be “back in the day.” 

I was once asked whether I had considered being a doctor instead of doing what I’m doing now by a friend trying to paint me as a “Successful writer.” In my mind, I started wondering why I didn’t become a doctor, why I haven’t been an NBA star with how athletic I am, or why I didn’t make billions of dollars by now.

Some of your brain filters don’t let you not observe the world

It’s no secret that the human brain has limitations on how much information it can process. But you may not realize just how many limitations there are. Several automatic mental filters keep us from seeing everything before us, filtering out some information so our brains can’t get overwhelmed.

The brain’s primary job is to take the energy we ingest from the environment through our senses and decide what to do with it. Everything we have learned, every person we have met, and every experience we have had has helped shape this filter system. Your brain has a finite capacity to understand the world. On top of all the other processes our brains handle, it takes a lot of energy to keep track of what’s happening around us at any given time. The brain has to filter out sensory information simply because there isn’t enough time or space to store it all.

Our brains are great at taking big things and breaking them into little bits. Colors, shapes, letters, words, and numbers are made of tiny dots that we can’t see individually. To your eyes alone, the logos on your favorite companies would be just a bunch of colors and shapes. Hearing is similar. The sounds that reach our ears contain a seemingly infinite amount of data about the world around us. But our brains filter out the excess so we can focus on important information like the voice of our friend or the sound of a car in an intersection.

Always stay in the present; it’ll make your life happier

Most of the time, our minds are filled with thoughts that have nothing to do with the present. This mind-wandering could be related to future or past events or simply fantasies of one kind or another. While these mind-wanderings can be fun, they can also be a huge source of stress. After all, it’s impossible to focus on two things at once, so when we’re in the middle of a task, and our minds start to wander, we get distracted and stumble.

Living in the present always makes you happier, even if bad things happen. In fact, according to a recent study published by the Journal of Personality and Individual Differences, people who can stay in the present moment are happier than those who allow their minds to wander. This is because when you live in the moment, you can feel your emotions without getting lost in them, which helps you find a sense of calm during adverse situations. When we don’t live in the now and allow our minds to wander, we’ll often spend time thinking about bad things that happened in the past or imagining scenarios of what may happen in the future, which tends to make us sad and anxious.

The reason why living in the now makes us happier is because when we live in the now, we are more conscious of our feelings. And arguably, being more aware of our emotions makes us feel better about them and thus happier! So if you want to be more comfortable, the next time the mind wanders, bring it back to the now.

Solve For Happy Quotes

“If events remain as they are, but changing how we think about them changes our experience, could we become happy simply by changing our thoughts? Of course! This is what happens all the time already. When” –Mo Gawdat

“Trying constantly to get approval for your chosen image is a losing battle because the real you isn’t what the ego pretends to be. This makes us unhappy since we’re always searching for the next thing to make the image complete, hoping that people will believe that’s who we are.” –Mo Gawdat

Solve For Happy Review

Solve for Happy is a book that is not something we don’t know before, but It is an intense compilation of what we already know. The mission behind the book is to make us understand how we can spend our life to live happily. Recommended.

To whom would I recommend Solve For Happy Summary?

  • Anyone who is trying hard to achieve his goals.
  • Any professional or multi-tasker.
  • Those who want to move on from the past. 

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