Author: Stephen R. Covey
|The 8th Habit (2004) is a motivational book that will help you find your inner voice and lead a more fulfilled life, this is the book for you. The author believes that our constant distractions mean that we sometimes get stuck in the ‘paralysis by analysis’ stage of life where we refuse to move forward and instead worry excessively about the future.|
In Stephen Covey’s The 8th Habit, he describes the four human drives: survival, significance, significance, and service. It is important to note that the first three are self-centered pursuits, while the fourth is a combination of serving others and self. When we focus on acting from those motivations that run counter to our true selves, we become disconnected from who we are.
This book is about knowing yourself and finding your true inner voice. When we act from our true inner voice, we are happier and more fulfilled. But how do we access these feelings? How do we know when we are acting from our outer voice and not our inner voice? To do so, Covey suggests several questions:
- What am I committed to? What are my goals?
- What inspires me? What makes me feel passionate?
- What energizes me? What feels right to me in my gut?
- What would I enjoy doing for the next ten years if I didn’t need money or other rewards?
Covey believes that when you find your true north, you can live a life of integrity and fulfill your potential. In addition, you will be a role model for others by honestly living your life. This can have a huge impact on the world because people will look up to someone authentic and grounded.
The 8th Habit Key Points
Freedom is the best gift with which you’ve been born
We can’t control what happens to us. But we sure as hell can decide how we’ll react to it. This is why freedom is such a big deal. Your first and most precious gift should be your freedom to choose.
And not in the ‘Yeah, whatever kind of way. Just imagine what would happen if we all started to realize this simple fact. You’d stop trying to control other people and start controlling yourself. And when you control yourself, you don’t have to control others anymore. When you stop trying to change the world and start changing your mind, it changes everything.
In a world where everybody would understand this simple fact – that their freedom to choose is their number one priority – there would be no wars, no poverty, and no evil. There would be peace and abundance for all. But although this is the only way for peace and abundance for all, we still haven’t collectively realized this simple fact.
That’s why nothing is more precious to us than our freedom to decide. And for the past few years, we’ve been witnessing a strong and bitter attack on that freedom. The attack comes through the rise of censorship and dangerous political correctness. What we were told were two separate issues, have become a clear and present danger to our way of life, to our very existence.
Apologizing and being nice are the ingredients to building trust
You may have heard it said that “trust is earned, not given”—but that isn’t quite right. Trust is a commodity, and to earn it you don’t need to be perfect; you just need to be the best candidate for the job.
To be successful, you have to have not only talent and drive but also the ability to inspire trust in others. When you can do this, it makes business relationships easier, but it’s also helpful in personal relationships. In the business world, trust is one of the most valuable assets a company can have — along with talent and drive. People who can be trusted will always be in demand; it’s not just a matter of whether you can do the job, but if others can trust you to get it done.
First impressions are important in business, but as time passes and more is learned about a person or company, the importance of trust grows even more. Sales, business, and entrepreneurship are all about relationships. And if you don’t have them – or if they’re not strong – then no sale is going to happen. Mutual trust is the key to personal and business relationships. You may love your product or service, but if you can’t establish a relationship with customers, clients, investors, or whomever you’re going to conduct business with, you lose out.
When it comes to communication, there is a certain art to compromise
It’s easier said than done, but listening to someone else’s perspective first is usually the best way to quell a conflict. Whether you’re trying to talk down your co-worker who doesn’t agree with the layout you designed or are having problems with your significant other because they don’t see eye-to-eye on something you want to do, compromising is essential when dealing with a conflict.
If you speak incessantly at someone, they can get annoyed and shut down. If you give in to every demand they make, then they don’t feel as though they were understood and respected. That’s where compromise comes in; give someone an inch and take a mile. It might not be the first thing on your mind when you’re trying to settle a conflict, but it could be the best thing for both parties involved.
Empathetic listening is a skill that allows you to understand what your colleagues or friends are saying while they’re trying to communicate their ideas. It’s a specific type of listening that encourages you to focus on both verbal and non-verbal signals. A good listener is someone who can connect with the other person and understand their point of view, which requires both active listening and being able to compromise.
A lot of times we hear people saying that they already know how to listen because they do it all the time. It’s easy to think that we’re already doing good at well-being because after all, it feels like we do it all the time. However, there is a big difference between listening as we usually do and empathetic listening.
The 8th Habit Quotes
“People are working harder than ever, but because they lack clarity and vision, they aren’t getting very far. They, in essence, are pushing a rope…with all of their might.” –Stephen R. Covey
“When all you want is a person’s body and you don’t want their mind, heart, or spirit, you have reduced a person to a thing.” –Stephen R. Covey
The 8th Habit Review
This book is helpful for personal as well as professional life. Every section of the book is equally important but the trust section is very important for everyone to read. Recommended.
To whom I would recommend The 8th Habit Summary?
- Anyone who is doing the job, he doesn’t like.
- Anyone who has strict rules and regulations.
- Anyone who wants to adopt good habits.