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The Anatomy of Peace Summary – February 2022

Author: Arbinger Institute

Short Summary
The Anatomy of Peace (2006) gives the readers tips on how to make your life peaceful. Moreover, how we can deal with people when we get into an argument or conflict. And how we can end the conflict peacefully.
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Detailed Summary

We get into a lot of arguments and conflicts in our daily life. We deal with so many people and everyone is not the same. Our energies, our mindset, and our thinking do not match with everyone. Whether we are in a relationship or are a student. We at some point, disagree with each other and hence get into an argument. What’s important is how we deal with such situations and how we get out of these situations. How we can maintain our mental peace and don’t let these situations affect our mental health. The book The Anatomy of Peace guides us on how we can end a conflict peacefully in order to maintain peace in our lives.

The Anatomy of Peace Key Points

Heart of peace or war of peace

The author says that we can have a heart of peace or a heart of war, depending on our preference. When we see things through the eyes of a war-torn heart, we stop thinking about people’s emotions. Conflict is facilitated by this way of thinking.

In contrast, the heart of peace accepts our inherent impulse to be kind. It allows us to perceive others as people, regardless of their social standing. This perspective allows us to listen to them and recognize how they are similar to us. Even in times of war, you can have a serene heart. Sultan Saladin selected this higher road after the Crusaders killed the people of Jerusalem in the 12th century. After a while, His people retook the city after a while, but he didn’t let them massacre the innocent as the Christians had. Saladin, on the other hand, prohibited injuring them. He provided safe passage for Christians while keeping the city open to pilgrims.

You can also select this better path to peace. Allow yourself to let go of old grudges and listen to the inner voice that encourages compassion and understanding. Those who irritate you are human beings just like you.

Change the environment for your peace

The author gives a tip to the readers that how they can achieve peace in their lives. The author says that we don’t have the ability to change people and it’s not under our control. What we do is, we can change the environment and isolate ourselves from the people who destroy our mental peace.

Just like the house chores. You want to say something if your partner isn’t doing their fair share, right? However, this may aggravate the situation because they will see it as criticism. Instead, you should look for and listen to the reasons for their conduct. Perhaps they’re under pressure at work or coping with a more serious issue.

Trying to alter the other person will not succeed, even if the problem is more serious, such as drug or alcohol addiction. It’s not about who’s right or wrong, but rather about figuring out what they require. Compassion is a fundamental component of this, which you can demonstrate by listening.

Stop justifying your bad behavior

Whenever we get into a conflict, we try to get out of the situation by defending ourselves and our bad actions. We try to get ourselves in a box.

According to the author, we have three boxes i.e better than, victim or I-deserve. Either we try to put our opponent down by treating them inferior. We make them feel they are less than us. This is better than a box.

The other box is the victim box where we put ourselves when we think that the world is unfair to us and we believe that every injustice done to us by others is done with malice.  whereas we put in the I-deserve box that we deserve all of this and every hardship that is inflicted on us is because of our own deeds.

Consider yourself in a position where you feel compelled to mistreat your consumers. Would you want to shop in a place if the personnel are obnoxious? Certainly not! So why do you think it’s acceptable to treat others in this manner? The degree of harmony in your environment is determined by your heart and thoughts. Your life will be full of calm if you pick the paths of compassion and understanding.

Who would I recommend The Anatomy of Peace summary to?

The book The Anatomy of Peace is recommended to everyone who craves peace in life but doesn’t focus on their actions and gets into unnecessary arguments every time. The book will educate them and help them in achieving peace in life.