Author: Neil Pasricha
|The Happiness Equation (2016) is a guide to essential secrets for a happy life, that we all too often overlook, at the workplace and beyond. With a bit of reflection, you can change your attitudes; you can change your life. The happiness equation is not just another self-help book. It’s a handbook to transforming your life through practical thinking, a blueprint for building a happy personal and professional life.|
How to find happiness? Whatever our goals in life are, most of us want to be happy. But the question is what is happiness? It’s not money – simply having a lot of it doesn’t buy happiness or fulfillment. Nor is it fame – there are countless unhappy celebrities out there who struggle with their lives in front of paparazzi cameras and behind tabloid headlines.
It doesn’t matter if you are rich or poor, young or old, single or married. What matters is that you choose to be happy today and every day. To be happy is not as difficult as you think. You don’t need to go on world tours, buy expensive luxuries, or swim in money to be happy. Rather, happiness is a choice that you make on daily basis.
Here are some key points taken from this book that you can use to accelerate your happiness and live your lives on the path of fulfillment.
The Happiness Equation Key Points
Japanese ikigai is better than German retirement:
We live in a different world than our grandparents. The simple fact is that people are not dying as children anymore, and they’re not dying as young adults either. Most of us are now living into our 80s and 90s. So retirement has turned into a long, drawn-out period of decline.
Ikigai, by contrast, is a way of life you can practice your entire life that gives you the essence of the good life: balance in body and balance in mind.
In the 19th century, life expectancy was about 50 years. So that was more than enough time for old people to relax and enjoy their golden years. It was natural that most of them would retire at age 65 and spend the rest of their lives playing with their grandchildren.
Today, people live 10 years longer than they did a century ago. Americans now spend, on average, 80% of their lives in retirement. Aging has even become a chronic ailment. The only thing is that if you don’t have anything to do, live until you do for a happy life because there are two kinds of old people: those who are waiting to die and others are those who have something to do. Don’t retire after retirement for your health.
Take the test every Saturday morning
Now, I’m not saying your job should be this way, but just for today, let’s say you’re a good marketing person. You manage to land up in marketing. You have to send out newsletters, write copy, spread the word about things… On a Saturday morning, take a test and ask yourself “What would you like to do on a Saturday morning, given you have no other obligations to fulfill?” In that case, you might want to go out and wake up and write some copy, or wake up and work on the newsletter.
All right? But do you think that that’s your natural state? No. It’s not. You are a human being. You want to call up your friends and say “Hey, let’s go do this. What do you want to do? Let’s go do it. It could be Saturdays in the park reading a book. Or it could be working out, listening to some music, or going to a museum. Whatever it is, take a moment to think about whether your life has come to resemble that Saturday morning you enjoy so much. If not, why? Is it because your work has consumed you? Is it because you’re putting too much pressure on yourself?
But do you?” “Do you?” “It can take a lot of courage to answer that question. If someone asks you to be something you’re not, or worse, if you ask them for something you’re not, that’s when life gets difficult. It’s hard to be yourself, whether it’s your spouse or your friends. If no one in the world sees you clearly and loves you completely the way you are, then it’s not likely you can have the clarity of mind to make good decisions. Live in a way that is true to who you are. In the end, Saturday Morning Test isn’t just another happiness hack; it’s a reminder that we need to do what makes us happy sooner rather than later.
Don’t listen to too much advice, listen to your voice
Advice is something that we all get at one point or another in our lives. But it’s also something that we all give, whether we realize it or not. Some of us are blessed to have a superior intellect and an excellent grasp of human nature, which enables us to give truly valuable advice. Others see things very differently from the way most people do, and can therefore offer advice that isn’t as conventional.
We’ve all been there before: Some relative, friend, or acquaintance who you’ve been close to all your life offers their two cents on some matter that is meaningful to you. “You should listen to your gut,” they say. So, listen to your voice. The voice inside of you knows what you need and what you want. It is the only one that can lead you to your path, and make you happy.
There is an expression that I like: “If you hear many voices inside your head, it may mean you have a lot of good ideas”. Of course, there are many ways to perceive “many voices”. The most common one is being indecisive, not knowing which way to go. But I think that indecision is a sign of a strong personality. It means that we see many possibilities for ourselves and that we can choose any direction to go in life. And we are afraid of making the wrong decision.
The happiness equation quotes
“I am convinced that life is 10% what happens and 90% how I react to it.” Neil Pasricha
“Because motivation doesn’t cause action. Action causes motivation.” Neil Pasricha
The happiness equation review
The happiness equation formula is great to implement in life. How this book is structured, how the examples are given in creative ways to practice them in our daily life is refreshing. Overall, the best book you can read to know the strategies behind happiness.
To whom I would recommend The happiness equation summary?
- A marketer who is hustling but not getting what he wants.
- Someone who fell out of love.
- Anyone who lost happiness because of someone.